Thursday, August 02, 2018

TECHNOLOGY VS. MAGIC


   



Arthur: Atianashie Miracle




       (CLARKE’S THREE LAWS)
v  When a distinguished but elderly scientist states that something is possible, he is almost certainly right. When he states that something is impossible, he is very probably wrong.
v  The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible.
v  Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.


In my eyes, this statement, while basically true, shows a misconception of what magic is—and a misconception that is shared by many others, at that.

My starting point would simply be to ask: How is magic and technology defined?
Both are somewhat vague concepts, but the definition of magic typically includes something along the lines of “paranormal”, “not explainable by science”, or similar—effectively creating a division that technology (and/or science) and magic are the natural respectively supernatural equivalents: An aero plane is technology, because the way it flies can be explained within the realms of the natural laws; a (hypothetical) flying carpet would be magic, because it draws on the supernatural.
This, however, just obfuscates the issue: We are now left with the discussion of what is natural and supernatural (normal and paranormal, whatnot).

My take is: Magic is a phenomenon that is yet to be explained by science. In other words, the only difference between technology and magic, is that the one is something that we understand today; the other something that we do not yet understand, but eventually will.

TO ILLUSTRATE: Imagine that the ancient Egyptians had had some remarkable break-through in magic, somehow managing to generate artificial light by inducing magical, invisible particles to pass through fine threads of copper. The secret was lost, and as time went past this feat became considered a myth of low credibility—only believed by a minority group of supernatural experimenters, alchemists, and the like. Come the modern era, electricity, and first predecessors of the light-bulb... The minority is vindicated, magic does exist, and magicians, not electricians, become an invaluable group of professionals.
This scenario differs from reality on one single basic count: The Egyptians had no such break-through (and it would indeed have taken either an amazing feat or an extraordinary piece of good luck for it to happen).

An apparent counter-example: Science may one day be able to deliver a flying carpet; however, for one to have existed in the days of Aladdin, magic would have been needed. Not quite: There were, in fact, no flying carpets back then (and likely no Aladdin, for that matter), which makes a world of difference. A flying carpet that does not exist is, ipso facto, not magical, not flying, nor even a carpet. Assume, however, for the sake of argument that flying carpets did exist: What would make them magical? Is there any reason to expect that their flying ability would not be explainable (as opposed to “already explained”) by science? I hold that given the existence of a flying carpet there would almost certainly be a scientific explanation to be found; hypothetically, that the carpets contained cavoritew. Similarly, that science has failed to find an explanation for e.g. ESP is unremarkable and uninteresting, because there is no true indication that ESP actually exists; only if its existence can be proved, and science fails to come up with an explanation over a pro-longed period of time, can the possibility of something truly paranormal be taken into account.

Notably, much of what we today would consider primitive technology, medicine, or similar, was once considered magic by many—including such mundane things as smiting. Equally notable is that even (attempts at) magic that did not actually work has historically often been put into systems of rules that are basically scientific (by the standards of the day; not, obviously, by modern criteria), and usually followed a logical pattern (cf. e.g. http://www.gutenberg.org/dirs/etext03/bough11h.htme). Similarly, alchemy, which is usually considered either magic or related to magic today, was one of the most scientific fields that had ever existed until the modern sciences entered the field—and chemistry, a highly respectable science, is arguably a special case of alchemy (as the Christian religion is arguably a special case of the Jewish: had the Jews/Alchemist been completely swallowed by the Christians/Chemists in a comparatively short time period, there might have been very little distinction made). Similar statements apply to e.g. astrology and astronomy.

Currently, I see only one possible case of magic that could fall outside of technology/science with a non-negligible probability: Use of magic formula, prayers, or similar, to make demons, gods, or other “magical” creatures perform acts. Even here, however, the problem would likely be more of semantics and definitions, even provided that this scenario is not hypothetical: A higher being acting in the world will likely use mechanisms explainable by science, or an extension of science to a greater or other universe; further, the actual formulae would likely be scientifically investigate and explainable. The one issue would be whether the mechanisms used by the higher beings were inherently inexplicable by the means of this world. (Such a scenario could likely be constructed in theory by assuming that this universe is run as computer simulation in another universe, and considering Gödel’s incompleteness theorems.) It is further disputable whether this should be considered magic at all (although some historical justification can be found), and not rather religion: Certainly, the current major Christian churches would react as negatively the accusation of magic, as would a chemist to the accusation of alchemy.

An important observation, that some non-scientist may be imperfectly aware of, is that even the phenomena that fall solidly into what is typically considered technology, are imperfectly explained by science, including e.g. electricity. Further, it is quite possible that trying to explain these is like plumbing a bottomless hole: It can be plumbed to a greater and greater depth, possibly even an arbitrarily large depth, but a bottom cannot be found; a “x because of y” can be amended with a “y because of z.”, “z because of z1.”, etc. but a terminal “z [high number] because.” may never be found.

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A final issue: The word “magic” can be traced to the Proto-Indoeuropean root “*magh” (“to be able, have power”), which is also the root of “machine”. (Cf.            http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=magice,respectively,             http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=machinee.)



REFLECTIVE ENTERING DURING BIRTH


REFLECTIVE ENTERING DURING BIRTH

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12/8/18

Related imageWhen a child is born immediately, the child will become sensitive of the environment, feeling the environment and all the sense organs will begin to work but the only thing is that each and every one of the senses will begin to mature with time like to smell, to feel, to hear, etc. The child will now recognize the mother’s voice even the smell of mother’s body able to differentiate the taste of the breast milk and ordinary water. The body will becomes use to the noise in the environment.


SOCIALIZING A SHY BABY


SOCIALIZING A SHY BABY


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20/8/18
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Parent who have form the habit of insulting their children or using bad words on their children should caution themselves because those bad words affects them in the future. According to “Gilissen and others, 2008”, parents of fearful children should take special care to foster a secure attachment. It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken ones.


Thursday, July 05, 2018

Challenges and Opportunities of Community Engaged Teaching

Challenges and Opportunities of Community Engaged Teaching


By Atianashie miracle, CFT Assistant Director
For experienced and inexperienced educators alike, community engaged teaching can present unique and sometimes difficult challenges for which many are not equipped.  However, when these challenges are met and overcome, community engaged teaching allows students, faculty, and communities to experience profound growth.


Time Commitment

Of the many concerns that educators express about community engaged teaching and research, possibly the most frequent is that it takes a lot of precious time.  Indeed, it takes significant amounts of time to develop a productive working relationship with a community partner, to design projects that meet both learning and community goals, to manage the logistics of the projects as they unfold, to engage students in special skills training, and to reflect on the meaningfulness of projects with students.

Possible Solutions:

Centers for Teaching and Learning

Centers for teaching and learning offer many resources to assist you in efficiently planning community-based courses that have a high impact on students and the community.  Because each course and community project can be unique, the most useful service is usually a one-on-one consultation.  However, we also offer workshops on community engaged teaching and we host a working group on these pedagogies for experienced faculty.  Here at Vanderbilt’s Center for Teaching, the staff has extensive experience with every phase of course planning and thus can help to make your community-based teaching successful.  Please call the CFT or write Joe Bandy to schedule an appointment.

Public Service Offices

Rely on community service offices to bridge the gap between campus and community.  Your fellow educators and your institution’s public service centers can help you to develop meaningful partnerships more efficiently.  Indeed, peers in your department and the staff of organizations such as Vanderbilt’s Office of Active Citizenship and Service (OACS) or the Center for Nashville Studies may have established community partners and project ideas to suit a wide variety of learning objectives.  They therefore can help make the planning much easier and help establish a positive working relationship between you and your community partner.  They also may be able to assist with services such as campus vans or other logistical necessities that your course may require.

Community Partnership Databases

Increasingly, many educational institutions are developing online databases that faculty, students, and community organizations can use to register needs or ideas and develop partnerships.  At Vanderbilt, multiple sites may be of service as you identify possible community partners:

Community Resources

Likewise, your local community or government may have organizations that facilitate civic action, from volunteerism to campus partnerships.  They are likely to know of a variety of community projects that might fit with your research or teaching interests.  Please see the Vanderbilt and Community Resources links below for more information.

Ensuring Positive Community Impact

What if your community-based project with students turns out to be of limited impact in the community?  For many educators this is a significant concern since we would like to have our community partnerships be mutually beneficial and because we want our students to feel effective in their work.

Possible Solutions:

Assessing Community Need

To ensure a project has significant impact for a community, it is important to address a community’s most urgent needs.  Therefore it is important to rely upon well-respected community leaders and organizations for an assessment of its needs and for greater background on the issues the community faces.  This should be supplemented with academic or government research that may be available about the community.  From these needs assessments, community goals should become clearer, which in turn will allow project ideas to emerge more easily.  Again, public service offices or experienced faculty may have done this work already, so please rely upon them.

Building Trust

In many campus-community, or “town-gown,” relationships there are histories of miscommunication, neglect, distrust, and even conflict.  It is helpful to be aware of these histories and the dilemmas they pose for new campus-community partnerships as you enter into dialogue with community members.  Even when there are not histories of conflict, there can be an absence of communication that may cause each side to suffer misunderstandings about the other.  Open, supportive communications are therefore essential to fostering mutually beneficial partnerships.  Also helpful are public conferences, guest lectures, community talks, campus or community tours, and other exchanges that serve to build understanding and trust.  Lastly, it is important to rely upon those bridge-builders between your campus and the community, whether they are community members with ties to the campus or staff and faculty who have been active locally.

Creative and Flexible Project Design

When designing a project with a community partner it is important to balance both community engagement and student learning goals equitably.  This might involve some creativity and flexibility on both sides.  Educators need to be flexible in adapting the learning goals of a course to the practical needs of a community partner.  Likewise, community partners may need to be flexible in choosing projects that will provide meaningful learning experiences for students.  Open and supportive communication, mutual understanding, and trust are invaluable in this process.

Setting Realistic Project Goals

In defining a mutually beneficial project, it is important to set learning and community goals that are manageable for your students within the time frame of your course.  Further, it is important to communicate these goals clearly to your students and ensure they have a clear sense of what will be expected of them at every step in the course.

Managing Community Expectations

Community partners can be excited to have students working with them on new and valued projects, and they may have high hopes about what they can accomplish.  While this enthusiasm is important for developing a good partnership, it is important to ensure your partner knows exactly what capacities your students do and do not have, and to set realistic expectations for project goals.

Ensuring Continuity

Community needs often exceed the limitations of one project and the semester time frame in which most educators teach.  Therefore, it is helpful for the community and educators to develop lasting partnerships.  Not only do lasting partnerships yield multiple projects over time that can result in a cumulative impact on the community, but they also allow for the trust and mutual understanding that ease future project planning and success.   If these partnerships can be established between the community and entire departments, programs, or institutions, community needs can be addressed across multiple educators and courses over time.  This ensures even greater community impact and partnerships that are less vulnerable to the career shifts of individual faculty.

Adhering to IRB Guidelines

If your project involves student research with human subjects from the community, it is imperative to have all members of the research project adhere to Vanderbilt University’s Human Research Protection Program policies and procedures.  These ensure respect and just treatment for community members and may provided useful teaching moments with students about ethical dimensions of community research.

Assessing Impacts

As in any form of instruction, it is imperative to evaluate community-based teaching and its impact.  While educators typically gather student ratings of a course, there often is no such mechanism for community partner evaluation.  Community partner evaluations can be done in the midst of a project for the purposes of implementing any mid-course corrections, but they also should be done once the project is finished to determine its final impact.  This can be in the form of a final written evaluation that an educator asks them to submit, one with specific questions regarding every phase of the project – from the usefulness of project design, to student conduct, to the helpfulness of the final results.  If there is more than one partner and they have online access, using an online survey service such as Survey Monkey can ensure greater anonymity and openness.

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Ensuring Student Learning

Another common worry is that students will not be prepared well enough to complete a community-based project successfully and that this will limit the learning experience as well as fail in helping their community partner.  While failure can happen in any teaching setting, the obligations educators and students may feel to community partners can make that prospect more worrisome.  It is therefore important to ensure students have all the preparation necessary to succeed in their projects and to benefit from the learning experience that community engagement provides.

Possible Solutions:

Content

For the greatest synergy between learning and service tasks, and for the greatest chance of project success, it is important to weave the project thoroughly into the content of the class.  It is therefore helpful to provide students with course content – readings, lectures, discussions – that develop their knowledge of community issues and their understanding of relevant theoretical perspectives.  When possible, it is helpful to have community partners suggest useful readings, provide a guest lecture, or participate in class dialogue.

Orientation to the Community Partner

Students may benefit from an orientation to the project and the community with their community partner, whether it is off campus or in a guest lecture.  This helps to provide students with an introduction to the community and the project goals, and better understand the synergies that exist between service and learning goals.  It also can help the students to make the community partner less abstract and enhance their sense of accountability to the project, serving as an important motivation for student performance throughout the course.

Skills Training

If students require skills training that will be helpful in the project – such as interviewing or film-making, just to name two – it is important to set aside time for this inside or outside of class.  In these trainings it may be helpful to rely upon colleagues or support staff who have the relevant skills.

Ethics Training

It is always crucial to ensure students do no harm to their partners or those they represent.  This may require special readings and discussions about potential ethical problems associated with your project and how students should avoid them.  When possible, it is useful to have community partners participate in these discussions to help sensitize and inform students, and to enhance mutual trust.

Logistical Support

Students may have the motivation and knowledge to complete a successful project, but if logistical difficulties such as scheduling, IRB processes, transportation, or communications mount, success is less likely.  Therefore it is important to provide students with the resources they need and that they are using them effectively.

Assignments

To ensure students are progressing towards the project’s learning and service goals, it is important to assign relevant readings and assess their progress through tests, reports, oral presentations, or other assignments.  If the project is substantial, it is helpful to assign its component pieces throughout the course so that students gradually build towards the final result with important comments and corrections along the way.

What if Projects Don’t Succeed?

What if students cannot complete the project successfully and thus fail their community partner?  If one has designed the project with realistic expectations, adequate student preparation, open communications with the community partner, and a thorough work schedule, it is unlikely that students will have nothing meaningful to share with the partner.  Indeed, because students and faculty feel accountable to the community partner, it is rare to see community-based projects yield no results whatsoever.
What is more likely is one of two scenarios:
  1. Students and community partners may encounter unforeseen obstacles that limit the project outcome in some way.
  2. The project’s results, especially those projects that involve original research, are not what the students or the partner expected.
In either of these cases it is important to see these as teaching moments, both for students and for the community partner.  Research or service projects conducted in the context of real world constraints may indeed surface unforeseen issues that can be the subject of intensive reflection and critical analysis.  When students have the opportunity to problem solve collaboratively to address these issues, they may learn even more about the complexities of real world contexts beyond abstract course content as well as valuable leadership skills of adaptation.  However, for these moments to have the greatest educational and community impact, educators need to have the courage to teach in the context of real world complexities and challenges.

Motivating Students

Motivating Students


Intrinsic Motivation

Intrinsic motivators include fascination with the subject, a sense of its relevance to life and the world, a sense of accomplishment in mastering it, and a sense of calling to it.
Students who are intrinsically motivated might say things like the following.
  • “Literature interests me.”
  • “Learning math enables me to think clearly.”
  • “I feel good when I succeed in class.”
Advantages: Intrinsic motivation can be long-lasting and self-sustaining.  Efforts to build this kind of motivation are also typically efforts at promoting student learning.  Such efforts often focus on the subject rather than rewards or punishments.
Disadvantages: On the other hand, efforts at fostering intrinsic motivation can be slow to affect behavior and can require special and lengthy preparation.  Students are individuals, so a variety of approaches may be needed to motivate different students. It is often helpful to know what interests one’s students in order to connect these interests with the subject matter. This requires getting to know one’s students. Also, it helps if the instructor is interested in the subject to begin with!
Source: Matt DeLong and Dale Winter, Learning to Teaching and Teaching to Learn Mathematics: Resources for Professional Development, Mathematical Association of America, 2002, page 163.

Extrinsic Motivation

Extrinsic motivators include parental expectations, expectations of other trusted role models, earning potential of a course of study, and grades (which keep scholarships coming).
Students who are extrinsically motivated might say things like the following.
  • “I need a B- in statistics to get into business school.”
  • “If I flunk chemistry, I will lose my scholarship.”
  • “Our instructor will bring us donuts if we do well on today’s quiz.”
Advantages: Extrinsic motivators more readily produce behavior changes and typically involve relatively little effort or preparation. Also, efforts at applying extrinsic motivators often do not require extensive knowledge of individual students.
Disadvantages: On the other hand, extrinsic motivators can often distract students from learning the subject at hand. It can be challenging to devise appropriate rewards and punishments for student behaviors. Often, one needs to escalate the rewards and punishments over time to maintain a certain effect level. Also, extrinsic motivators typically do not work over the long term. Once the rewards or punishments are removed, students lose their motivation.
Source: Matt DeLong and Dale Winter, Learning to Teaching and Teaching to Learn Mathematics: Resources for Professional Development, Mathematical Association of America, 2002, page 163.
Furthermore, research indicates that extrinsic rewards can have a negative impact on intrinsic motivation. In one series of experiments, psychologist Edward Deci had two groups of college students play with a puzzle called Soma. One group of students was paid for each puzzle they solved; the other wasn’t. He found that the group that was paid to solve puzzles stopped solving puzzles as soon as the experiment—and the payment—ended. However, the group that wasn’t paid kept solving the puzzles even after the experiment was over. They had found the puzzles intrinsically interesting. Deci argued that the group that had been paid to solve puzzles might have found the puzzles intrinsically interesting as well, but the extrinsic, monetary reward had reduced their intrinsic interest.
Source: Ken Bain, What the Best College Teachers Do, Harvard University Press, 2004, pages 32-33.

Effects of Motivation on Learning Styles

  • Deep learners respond well to the challenge of mastering a difficult and complex subject. These are intrinsically motivated students who are often a joy to teach!
  • Strategic learners are motivated primarily by rewards. They react well to competition and the opportunity to best others. They often make good grades but won’t engage deeply with a subject unless there is a clear reward for doing so. They are sometimes called “bulimic learners,” learning as much as they need to do well on a test or exam and then promptly forgetting the material once the assessment is over.Handle strategic learners by avoiding appeals to competition. Appeal to their intrinsic interest in the subject at hand. Design your assignments (tests, papers, projects, etc.) so that deep engagement with the subject is necessary for success on the assignments. Do so by requiring students to apply, synthesize, or evaluate material instead of merely comprehending or memorizing material.
  • Surface learners are often motivated by a desire to avoid failure. They typically avoid deep learning because it they see it as inherently risky behavior. They will often do what it takes to pass an exam or course, but they won’t choose to go beyond the minimum required for fear of failure.Handle surface learners by helping them gain confidence in their abilities to learn and perform. “Scaffold” course material and assignments by designing a series of activities or assignments that build on each other over time in complexity and challenge. Encourage these learners often and help them reflect on what they’ve learned and what they’ve accomplished.
Source: Ken Bain, What the Best College Teachers Do, Harvard University Press, 2004, pages 40-41.

A Model of Intrinsic Motivation

James Middleton, Joan Littlefield, and Rich Lehrer have proposed the following model of intrinsic academic motivation.
  • First, given the opportunity to engage in a learning activity, a student determines if the activity is one that is known to be interesting.  If so, the student engages in the activity.
  • If not, then the student evaluates the activity on two factors—the stimulation (e.g. challenge, curiosity, fantasy) it provides and the personal control (e.g. free choice, not too difficult) it affords.
  • If the student perceives the activity as stimulating and controllable, then the student tentatively labels the activity as interesting and engages in it.  If either condition becomes insufficient, then the student disengages from the activity—unless some extrinsic motivator influences the student to continue.
  • If the activity is repeatedly deemed stimulating and controllable, then the student may deem the activity interesting.  Then the student will be more likely to engage in the activity in the future.
  • If over time activities that are deemed interesting provide little stimulation or control, then the student will remove the activity from his or her mental list of interesting activities.
The challenge, then, is to provide teaching and learning activities that are both stimulating and offer students a degree of personal control.
Source: James A. Middleton, “A Study of Intrinsic Motivation in the Mathematics Classroom: A Personal Constructs Approach,” Journal for Research in Mathematics Education, Vol. 26, No. 3, pages 255-257.

Strategies for Motivating Students

Following are some research-based strategies for motivating students to learn.
  • Become a role model for student interest. Deliver your presentations with energy and enthusiasm.  As a display of your motivation, your passion motivates your students. Make the course personal, showing why you are interested in the material.
  • Get to know your students. You will be able to better tailor your instruction to the students’ concerns and backgrounds, and your personal interest in them will inspire their personal loyalty to you. Display a strong interest in students’ learning and a faith in their abilities.
  • Use examples freely. Many students want to be shown why a concept or technique is useful before they want to study it further. Inform students about how your course prepares students for future opportunities.
  • Use a variety of student-active teaching activities. These activities directly engage students in the material and give them opportunities to achieve a level of mastery.
    • Teach by discovery.  Students find as satisfying as reasoning through a problem and discovering the underlying principle on their own.
    • Cooperative learning activities are particularly effective as they also provide positive social pressure.
  • Set realistic performance goals and help students achieve them by encouraging them to set their own reasonable goals. Design assignments that are appropriately challenging in view of the experience and aptitude of the class.
  • Place appropriate emphasis on testing and grading. Tests should be a means of showing what students have mastered, not what they have not. Avoid grading on the curve and give everyone the opportunity to achieve the highest standard and grades.
  • Be free with praise and constructive in criticism. Negative comments should pertain to particular performances, not the performer. Offer nonjudgmental feedback on students’ work, stress opportunities to improve, look for ways to stimulate advancement, and avoid dividing students into sheep and goats.
  • Give students as much control over their own education as possible. Let students choose paper and project topics that interest them. Assess them in a variety of ways (tests, papers, projects, presentations, etc.) to give students more control over how they show their understanding to you. Give students options for how these assignments are weighted.
Sources:
  • Ken Bain, What the Best College Teachers Do, Harvard University Press, 2004, pages 32-42.
  • Linda Nilson, Teaching At Its Best: A Research-Based Resource for College Instructors, 2nd edition, Anker Publishing, 2003, pages 41-44.
  • Matt DeLong and Dale Winter, Learning to Teaching and Teaching to Learn Mathematics: Resources for Professional Development, Mathematical Association of America, 2002, pages 159-168.

Showing Students the Appeal of the Subject

When encouraging students to find your subject matter interesting, use cues to show students the appeal of the subject matter.

 Appeal

Examples of Cues

 Novelty
“I think that is really neat—I haven’t seen anything quite the same.”
 Utility
“This next topic is something that we’ll use again and again.  It contains valuable ideas that we’ll use throughout the later sections of the course.”
 Applicability
“As you work through the next section, I think that you’ll be pleasantly surprised how relevant it is.”
 Anticipation
“As you read through, ask yourself what this section of work is hinting at as the next logical step.”
 Surprise
“We’ve used X in a lot of different ways.  If you thought you’d seen them all, just wait for the next assignment.”
 Challenge
“Who’s up for a challenge?  I think that you’ll find the next piece of work very interesting.”
 Feedback
“When you try this, you’ll find out whether you really understood yesterday’s lesson.”
 Closure
“A lot of you have asked me about X.  Well, finally we’re going to find out why that’s so.”

Wednesday, June 06, 2018

MATURITY IS RESPONSIBILITY AND NOT AGE

MATURITY IS RESPONSIBILITY AND NOT AGE

I love new beginnings and love this time of year. As a life coach and a person who's generally obsessed with helping others maximize health, happiness and quality of life, I'm always watching life as it unfolds in wise, magical and surprising ways.
Here are the top things that I've learned in the last year or so - hopefully they'll accelerate your own learning curve and save you some of the stress and effort I went through to figure this stuff out:

1) LISTEN TO AND ACT ON YOUR INSTINCTS
I really, really hope I've finally gotten this one. In my life, several moments stand out as times that my instincts were screaming at me and I stupidly steamrolled them. One was when I bought a beautiful loft condo in my twenties with a man I'd been dating for three months. My instincts were shrieking at the top of their lungs as I signed that mortgage paper (really, my conscious mind should have been screaming louder than my instincts but I was young and stupid).
I should have followed my impulse to literally run from the table, but I remember worrying that the mortgage broker would think I was nuts and that I'd cause a scene. In the end, I lost everything I invested and the man who was soon to be my ex-boyfriend walked away with a huge profit.
Last year, listening to my instincts blessedly pulled me back from the edge of another potentially disastrous real estate investment, and also caused me to cancel two fabulous trips because of a strange sense of foreboding. In the latter cases I'll never know what I might have been spared, but when I also followed my instincts and booked an impulsive trip to Italy instead, I discovered answers to questions I'd been running from for years.
Don't ignore your instincts.


2) DON'T TRY TO REASON WITH UNREASONABLE PEOPLE
I'm a people-pleaser and have finally realized and fully acknowledged just how much energy and emotion I used to invest in trying to get unfriendly unreasonable people to understand or like me. This year, with the help of an awesome coach, I finally learned to stop trying to win these types over. In the past, if someone unfairly accused me of something or judged me incorrectly or just plain didn't seem to approve of me, I would do everything I could to help them understand me and reverse their opinion. No more.
You know who these people are. Learn to deflect their comments and challenges, don't react or let them upset you, don't bother trying to explain or convince. Be as kind to them as you can in doing so, but don't waste your breath or precious time on trying to reason with them once it's clear that they're just plain unreasonable.

3) BREAKFAST LIKE A KING, LUNCH LIKE A PRINCE, EAT DINNER LIKE A PAUPER
If you typically skip breakfast or eat something quick (think coffee and a sweet treat), eating a more substantial morning meal that contains protein, healthy fat, fibre and a fruit or vegetable will supercharge your day like you wouldn't believe. People who eat a solid breakfast have been shown in studies to perform substantially better on exams, and they also are more likely to successfully lose weight and keep it off.
On the other hand, eating a big meal in the evening triggers a surge of insulin and other hormones that are the last thing you want floating around your body while you're sleeping. This can affect the quality of your sleep, accelerate weight gain, set you up to develop diabetes, age you more quickly and decrease your body's ability to weather stress. This one's a hard habit to break, but I'm trying!

4) MAKE SPIRITUAL TIME A DAILY PRIORITY
My spiritual life and faith have been important to me for years now, but like most people it was something I tended to lean on primarily when times were tough. There's tons of scientific literature out there supporting the benefits of spiritual beliefs and lifestyle practices on our immune system, mental health, physical health etc. This year I finally developed the habit of making time for prayer and reflection first thing in the morning and the last thing at night, and have experienced great peace, insight and focus as a result. Now, I wouldn't dare skip it.

5) TRACK YOUR SPENDING AND BE ACCOUNTABLE TO YOURSELF FINANCIALLY
I love this quote from Dave Ramsey: "If you will live like no one else, one day you will live like no one else." Over the last few months I have been studying his "Financial Peace University" course; the effects on my financial habits and bottom line have been profound. I've been blessed for years with a good solid income, but somehow always managed to fritter the bulk of it away through bad decisions (see #1), mindless spending, and being overly comfortable with credit and debt. Thanks to Dave I've learned to see my habits in the cold hard light of truth, and learned to control money rather than letting it control me - I encourage you to do the same!

6) GET UP EARLY TO FIND THE EXTRA TIME YOU LONG FOR
As I wrote about in my post Confessions of a Reformed Night Owl, I have finally cured myself of my lifelong habit of going to bed late. Most of us find it very hard to find time in our crazy busy days to do the important things that don't have deadlines (e.g. taking steps toward a dream, writing that book that's inside you, yoga or other exercise, spiritual time and reflection), and once the day is over we're tired and it's too late. Even if you go to bed and get up just an hour earlier, you'll be amazed by the satisfaction you get from maximizing the gift of early morning time.

7) MAKE FAMILY A TOP PRIORITY
Because I'm obsessed with figuring out what creates true happiness and contentment, I'm always asking myself and observing what makes me happiest. Research consistently points to our relationships as a prime source of happiness and health. This year, hands down, my best times have been with family, particularly my sisters and my gorgeous nephews.
Though we live far apart, spending time with them has become my top priority. I recently spent Christmas with my sister in Brooklyn, and just spent a New Year's week with our entire clan. I've had to make some major sacrifices in order to make these trips possible, and there can sometimes be some challenging tensions, but I know that the moments of joy and memories will be priceless. Who do you need to spend more time with, no matter what?

8) TAKE TIME REGULARLY TO BE ALONE WITHOUT DISTRACTIONS
During the trip to Italy I mentioned above, I found myself without my laptop, without decent books to read, and without anyone to talk to. For the first time in a long time, I had to face my life, myself, and my deepest feelings without the usual superficial distractions and escapes. It wasn't easy by any means, but the insights I gained helped me immeasurably and I went home a changed person.
We live in such an incredibly distracting environment where it's almost impossible to really hear your deepest self. Even if it's just going off by yourself for an afternoon without your smartphone, make time whenever you can to interrupt the constant hum of life. You'll be amazed by what you discover.

9) IF YOU WANT TO BECOME AN OVERNIGHT SUCCESS, REGULARLY DO THE SMALL STEADY STEPS REQUIRED TO DO TO GET THERE
Lately I've watched a number of colleagues suddenly hit escape velocity with their careers and their dreams. For me, too, after years of working steadily at my various passions, business suddenly took off with seemingly no explanation as to "why now?"
The only answer in each of these cases that I could find was this: everyone who I saw succeeding had been tirelessly plugging away at their dream, often with little reward or reinforcement, for years.
The above colleagues, who are mostly bloggers, had posted every day or week without ever giving up. The results have suddenly become spectacular, though often there was no indication that things would ever really catch fire. It sucks that you might have to work steadily (and even unsuccessfully) for a long time without evidence that your dreams will ever materialize, but it seems to be the key to success in this often ironic life.

10) DREAM BIG BECAUSE LIFE IS MIRACULOUS
Life truly is amazing. Just when you thought all was lost, the miracle finally shows up. Or, life comes full circle in a way so perfect and over-the-top that you would have hardly dared to ask for it.
Years ago, my passion for a more complete kind of medicine was birthed by reading the work of integrative medicine pioneer Dr. Andrew Weil. Last year, I shared the stage with my wellness hero, and was stunned to hear that he had heard of my work. When he emailed me afterwards, I printed it out - I'll probably laminate it and hang it in my office to remind myself of just how awesomely life can deliver and surprise.